Deciding that your marriage is over is a hard decision to reach. In addition to your personal feelings there maybe children or other family members who will be affected, and wider financial implications to consider.
Once you are sure that a permanent split is the only way forward, seeking professional legal advice from a divorce lawyer is recommended.
If you are ready to proceed here are our top tips from our Divorce Lawyers to help you get started:
- If you both accept the marriage is over then this will make the process easier. Try and get the other party to co-operate.
- Get hold of your marriage certificate or an official copy.
- Make sure you have the correct address for your spouse.
- Try and agree some arrangements for your children.
- Choose your timing carefully. Is getting a divorce the priority or is it really sorting out the arrangements for the children or finances?
- Choose your ground for divorce carefully for a smoother process – eg it may not be worth alleging adultery if it is not admitted.
- If using the behaviour ground, do you really need to throw in the kitchen sink as well? Think what you really need to say and don’t over-egg the pudding.
- If possible, sort out and agree how the legal and court costs are going to be paid and by whom. Are they to be shared in some way?
- Don’t just apply for the decree absolute at the first opportunity without considering the financial implications, particularly if financial matters have not yet been resolved. Remember that the divorce only changes your marital status and does not in itself resolve or conclude any financial arrangements.
- Make a new will to reflect your changed circumstances – you don’t have to wait for the final decree (decree absolute) to do this.